The struggle you're in today is developing the strength you need for tomorrow. ~Unknown
We all have our struggles. Daily struggles that start with how in the heck we are able to even get out of bed on this particular day. Then they develop into more things like how we are able to pull our clothes on. For me, this is a constant struggle. It's pretty classic for me to say I'm tired all the time but nothing is worse then actually getting yourself out of bed on any given day. Especially when that bed is so darn comfortable. I don't mean to say that I don't want to get out of bed because I don't like me life. No. Don't read farther into this than you have to! Gosh. It just means that I am tired.
Recently I started a new workout program which forces me to get up earlier than my kids and work out and make a daily chocolate shake to have for breakfast. (Yes you read that right.) I have to say this is what actually gets me up! The idea of that chocolate shake= yum! But what gives me the energy to work out I will never know. Knowing I have to accomplish this to lose weight is a big factor but also knowing that I need to accomplish something for myself for once. So much of what I do daily is for somebody else. This just happens to be for me. I like that I have control over it but it also scares me because I know how good I am at being a quitter. The harder it is, the more likely I am to quit. This just happens to be hard. But when I am determined nothing stops me. I guess it's an internal thing. The reward must be greater than the struggle. For me, the rewards is greater. Keep it going.
So how do we keep it going? How can take a moment to recharge and think about the bigger picture for once? And is it ok to say we just don't want to do it once in a while? Here are some things I do to keep me sane. Maybe they will work for you.
1. Realize that we are not perfect
This is actually something I say to myself daily. I am not perfect. I am only one person doing the work of three most times. My business hat, my mom hat, my wife hat, my homemaker hat, my learning hat, my homeschool teacher hat. The list goes on. Every now and then you have to give yourself a break. Don't be so hard on yourself. Don't put yourself down for not being like the person next to you who seems to be able to function at a higher capacity. Realize that it is what it is and you can't change things that have been done already. Let it go.
2. Understand your limits
Letting things go comes with some realizations. Realizations that when you are letting a lot go- meaning you are giving yourself too much to do and having to forgive yourself for too much. If you have to tell yourself all too often that things are just ok, that you can move on from this mistake and forget about it- you are stretching yourself too thin. It's time to start prioritizing and realize that there are more important things in life than the little stuff. Learn how to say no to the things you cannot handle and be ok with it. Doing some things great is not the same as doing many things so-so. Cook, clean, love.
3. Take a break
We all have that moment when we want to give up. But taking a break isn't giving up. It's allowing yourself time to recharge and your body to replenish itself. It's ok. Go outside and take a breather. Go to your room and sit in peace and quiet (until the kids realize you are there). Just relax. If even for ten minutes, it's worth it. I like to recharge by going out into nature. I may not do this daily. In fact I only do this about once per week or even less. But once I do I feel like I am one with myself again and I have the energy to get back out there and try again. If you have small children, giving yourself a time-out is appropriate. Kids understand what that means and they will know that you need your time to compose yourself. It's hard to remember to do this. But try anyways because I guarantee you will be better for it.
If this means something to you then please check out some of my other posts related to this. It's really important to get your kids off the electronics and outside as well as get you off social media. All of these things will help you in the long run not only be a better person to those around you but a better role model and friend as well. Keep me updated with your struggles. It's good to hear that people have them too and it's not just me! Comment below with some of the struggles you have in your everyday life and how you move through those struggles.
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